Sunday, May 16, 2010

Every Time I've Ever Shit My Pants #1

My life is fairly boring, as far as I'm concerned, and I mostly like it this way. I've been working on a perzine for 3+ years that will probably never come out because I don't have a lot to say about my life. Having weird standards about representation and production stylizations do not lend themselves to ever feeling satisfied about the work I do.

At the end of the film "Chasing Amy," the male protagonist, Holden, says, "[He] finally [has] something personal to say." Even though this context of this situation is entirely different than that movie, that statement echoes true for me right now.

I'm writing a zine about shitting my pants and all of the issues I have had with my stomach in the past few years. This subject is personal (for obvious reasons) and sharing my "most embarrassing moments" confessional-girl-zine-style is therapeutic the way that therapy is not. Also, I can work through my own emotional bullshit on my own; I am graced with a relatively uncomplicated life that is not hard to figure out.

Tuesday, May 11, 2010

This weekend

Most people don't know this, but my grandmother is terminally sick. This past weekend I drove ten hours total to be home for less than 24 hours so I could see my mom and grandmother on Mother's Day. I was going home nearly every-other weekend for a few month stretch earlier this year. This is going to start happening again as my grandmother's health worsens.

No one close to me has ever died before, so I am not sure how I am going to handle this situation. I cannot predict my own actions, emotions, or reactions. Hopefully I can hang tough for my family. They don't have to see me deal with it out here.

Sometimes I think that I perpetuate the cycles that happen in my life. This may be a good thing or a bad thing; I'm just not sure.

My mom was diagnosed with cancer when I was about twelve or thirteen. She still deals with her cancer but it is managed fairly well. At twenty-five, I find myself falling into similar patterns. On Mother's day I bought a pack of cigarettes on the ride home, I bought and listened to the new HOLE album, and gave myself a psuedo-chelsea haircut in my bathroom after midnight. It might be safe to say that I didn't handle my life that night but I argue that if those are the worst things that happen, I still might be ahead.

The new HOLE album kind of sucks but as a super-fan, I can't avoid some of its charms. A review pending on my tumblr page, which is severely neglected.

In other news, I may have found an apartment.

Sunday, May 2, 2010

Moving on up...

This week was such a blur for me, even though I stayed in on Friday and Saturday night.

My friend Sara is finalizing her preparations for her cross-country move to San Francisco. I was pretty much at her house every day for a week, hanging out with her while she packed, cleaned, and repaired her home (that she owns). As much as I wanted to see her, my secret priority was to spend time with her cats, both of whom I adore.

Earlier this week, the dude and I also decided that we will no longer be roommates once our lease is up at the end of July. We had been deliberating our decision back and forth for a few weeks and we both agree that this might be a good time for us to continue to date while living separately. Living together with a significant other is/was a new experience for both of us but the great experiment is coming to a close.

I've been in the same place for nearly four years now. This house will be tied with the house in Texas for the title of "Residence-I've-In-Lived-The-Longest." Four years in this house; eight years in Pittsburgh.

Needless to say, I have some anxieties about moving. I've only definitely known that I am living alone for four days and I've already arranged a viewing of an apartment for this week (and inquired about a few others). The lease doesn't end until the end of July, but I like to be ahead of the game.

The internet searches I have attempted have not been helpful in preparing me for what needs to happen before the move. Our current house also has to be put in "apartment-showing" shape in the next week. In order to do this, I have to get my shit together on my own.

Blogging my way through this experience/ordeal will hopefully help me keep my sanity (and keep my insanity away from my relationship).